thescarletwoman | Entries tagged with family

Oi! Sorry for the radio silence here! ♥

I am, though, here in White Plains and safe and sound. Loving my new apartment and getting used to living with someone. That... is an adventure, but at least the roommie is a geek like me, so it helps. A lot. :^D

Hey, we have a remote control Dalek on our mantle. What more could I ask for?

Oh, I know! White Plains, stop being so fucking hot and humid so I can actually go exploring!

Also! I'm an aunt twice over! :^D a little belated posting these but I was waiting for pictures... and haven't gotten them. Or, rather, I have but they're on my old phone and mom has yet to email them to me. *sigh*

♥ Kayo Charlie --> born 15 July
♥ James Douglas III --> born 31 July

So after the nieces, I have nephews! *squee*

And Law School. Orientation starts on monday and I just finished going through some of my syllabuses. Let's just say that my Torts professor has managed to scare the ever living shit out of me -- and I didn't think that was at all possible after Oltman. Final grade is based solely on one 4 hour closed-book exam. Come unprepared to class 3 times and he won't allow you to sit for the exam. Not that I'm PLANNING on being unprepared? But still. Fuck me.

♥ How have you guys been my lovelies? Tell me something good that's happened in your life, no matter how tiny or insignificant.

Current Mood: good
Current Music: John Barrowman | Night & Day

Nice to know that, even in the side of the family you like, hypocrisy can still run rampant. Then again, when it's the side of the family you like -- it hurts all the more.

It almost feels like a betrayal.

Yeah -- so much for going to her bachelorette. If I go up to NYC, it'll be just for her -- sometime when it can be just her, me and her fiancée. I have no desire to spend any time with the rest of them.

Guess this is what I get for fucking being proud of my nieces.

Current Mood: distressed

Macy's Rickroll'd the nation. Macy's FTW!

Even better? Having to explain through my cackling laughter what Rickroll'd is to my folks.

And to everyone, have a Happy Thanksgiving. I hope your time with family is going to be better than mine. What more fun then my family, my uncle, his divorced wife and their son who hates his father for having an affair under one roof?

Please pass the Bailey's.

Current Mood: amused
Current Music: National Dog Show on TV

Thanks everyone for their kind words about my uncle. This past... week has been absolutely insane. The good news is that he's out of ICU as of Tuesday. They ended up keeping him longer saying that they didn't need the beds in the ICU -- but we all think they kept him there to make sure nothing else went wrong or if they missed one of the perferations they could catch it quickly.

Or, you know, to make sure he doesn't go septic. *wince*

But in any case, he's in a normal room and recovering nicely. Folks said he's beginning to hallucinate from the number of drugs and pain killers he's on. But really, considering the alternatives... we're very, very fortunate.

This weekend I'll catch up with things and all the comments I owe. I seriously haven't looked at my flist in the past week. So, feel free to point me to anything I should see. Be it personal, fandom, silly... whathaveyou.

Happier news? HOMG. Black Jewels Trilogy. *points to icon* has anyone read it? And where is there a fandom/rpg for these books. Granted, I don't have time until after the LSATs but homg. I'm about 100 pages from the end and between Saeten and Daemon... I'm not sure who I love more.

♥

Current Mood: stressed
Current Music: Sunday in the Park With George // Finishing the Hat

Was stuck in a hospital waiting room for five hours.

My uncle went into the hospital earlier this week for some blockage in his lower end. For those of you keeping score at home, this is my dad's brother. The one who just divorced his wife a few years back and married the woman he was having the affair with. Sidebar: he and wife number four are in the process of getting a divorce.

Apparently, he had been doing better all this week. I haven't been in to see him because I've been going through the seventh circle of hell at the Playhouse with this damn concert this weekend. At about 8pm, I get a call from my dad saying that Uncle Mark is going into surgery. He blew a hole in his intestine from all the built up pressure. I ended up leaving rehearsal around 9:30 when I just couldn't stand it any longer. Went home, changed, and went down to the hospital with the folks.

Basically -- we wanted to be there for my aunt. I personally... couldn't do what she did tonight -- waiting all night for the man who committed adultery SEVERAL times to come out of surgery but none of us wanted to be alone. Particularly because Andy (my cousin and their son) refuses to even speak to his father. And Andy never came down all night. Which, hi, I don't care if you're fighting with someone. When there's a medical emergency like this, you put differences aside. Once he's out of the woods go back to hating him. But in this case where my uncle could have died from this? Yeah, really smart, Andy.

At about 12:30am he came out of surgery and the doctor talked to us. As soon as the words 'life threatening' were used, the four of us were deadly quiet. They ended up removing a large portion of his colon and they're still going to have to go in again and look at the blockage, but the doc said it didn't look or feel like cancer, and he thinks it's diverticulitis related. (Which, my Uncle has had that diagnosed for YEARS now). So they're going to let him heal before doing anything else. The good news was that he got into surgery before he could turn septic... which really would have been the kiss of death. Knowing that the drug that counters septic is about $10,000 a dose, it could have... been really not good. I think I'm still in shock over that whole bit.

Finally at about 2:30 am we were able to see him in the ICU. He's doing well (or as well as can be expected at the present).

It's... just been one helluva night.

Current Mood: drained

Mostly, we had a happy ending.

Shortly after I emailed the post, I decided to suck it up and call my father and VERY CAREFULLY ask if there was an envelope on the counter. The conversation went thusly:

Me: So... uh... did I happen to leave a manilla envelope on the kitchen counter?
Dad: yes you did.
Me: Uh... please don't look in there.
Dad: Why?
Me: No reason. Just... not for your eyes. At all.
Dad: Okay...
Me: Actually, can you toss it in the den on my stuff. Or even in the dining room?
Dad: I'm just... going to leave it where it is.

Hang up with him and have a nerve wracking next hour or so, wondering if he'll actually NOT look or if it'll be the little kid syndrome. Don't touch the stove... what does the kid do? Touch the stove. Had a ton of drama at work involving a new credit card machine and my being unable to transmit the batch for whatever reason which involved me driving back to the store after leaving to call boss and explain. Get home around 7:40 and mom's home.

Enter envelope still sitting on the kitchen table.

Run in. Grab it.

Mom: what's that?
Me: *on way up the stairs* noooothing.
Mom: So, where are you going with it?
Me: To my room.
Mom: What's in it.
Me: just never you mind.

So... I can only hope they DIDN"T see what's in there. Mom, would likely be a bit better with what it was as she and I share romance novels. But as I was wibbling with

wook77 romance novels and sign-ups for a pr0n fest are two VERY different things.

Last thing I needed was my father seeing a request of: Snarry or Harry/Draco, kinks: D/s, BDSM and rimming.

Crisis Averted.

I hope.

Current Mood: relieved
Current Music: Lisa Loeb // When All the Stars Were Falling

This has just been... such a crap week. Scratch that, a crap year.

Seriously. Where's that restart button.

I'm actually really thankful I have a meeting with my therapist tomorrow to do some unloading. ♥ I appreciate all the offers to chat but there are times when in person is just... it's different. I've tried talking to my parents about Anj, but they just don't get it. I think it's a generational thing, really.

They see her as an acquaintance and several times when I've tried to talk to them about it, I get corrected when I refer to her as a friend. In their minds, because I never sat down and had coffee with her, she's not a 'true friend'. Did we exchange a boat-load of IMs? No. But we made a connection, and sometimes that's all that matters.

On top of that... my grandfather's in the hospital. Those of you who have been around here for a while know there's... not much love lost with him anymore. He's now speaking to us... it's been over a year since we exchanged words after he hung up on my mother after telling her twice to 'shut up'. How HE remembers it... he called THREE months ago and tried to tell mom that he fell and she wouldn't let him get a word in edgewise. Which is a total lie. But now he's ill and has been in and out of hospital for the past couple of weeks. I honestly don't know how I feel about this, but I see how it's tearing dad apart right now. He hates his father with a passion, yet he still is his father and my dad has to deal with all of this. On top of that, my uncle and the woman he cheated on my aunt with and married two years ago (her fifth, his fourth marriage) -- are now on the outs.

There's family stress. There's me not really being able to mourn the way I need to mourn.

This gets easier, right?

♥♥ in case I haven't told you guys lately -- I love you all. I honestly and truly do.

Current Mood: blank
Current Music: The Full Monty // You Walk With Me

I swear... one should not return home after living by themselves in college. The only reason I'm still at home is because it's cheap (read: free) and I can save up for Law School in two years. Well, a year and a half now.

However, I really don't know if I can last that long here. I really, really don't.

I see my therapist and he tells me to be able to reply to them rather than just rolling over and taking it. So I do, and I'm told I'm being uncooperative. I spend too much time on the computer and am not "plugged into real life". Hi, the reason I AM on the computer is the fact that this is where my friends are. Sad but true. I've been abandoned by people who were supposedly my 'friends' in RL one time too many. Am I damaged goods? Yeah... I think I am at times.

Speaking of plugged in, let's mention how much time YOU both spent on the computer yesterday. During 'normal' hours? it was way more than me. And you know what, it gets really old when you're trying to explain something new with how the TV works and your father is sitting there staring at a game of Spider on the computer.

Do I have bad migraines? yes, I do. And now I'm getting yelled at that I need a proper sleep schedule. I make myself get between 7 and 8 hours of sleep a night. Yes, sometimes it means up until 2 or 3 and wake up around 10-11ish.

No, I haven't started the rest of my LSAT prep yet. No, I didn't get my scores on Wednesday like you thought, I got them on Thursday. And let's also say I've been dealing with the period from hell this past week so any fucking work I WOULD have done would have been meaningless. I was PLANNING on starting this week. No, mother, I'm going to wait and cram at the last possible minute. Given the fucking amount of time I spent on just the logic games before this exam, is that NOT a clue?

*sigh* If I could pick up and move right now, I would in a fucking heart-beat. I just know I don't have the resources to do so right now. But I just need out of here. And you know what, if I choose to spend my time on the computer, then that's my fucking choice. You keep saying I'm old enough to make my own decisions, and this is something I choose. But apparently, in their eyes, anything I do is the wrong fucking choice.

ETA: we now return you to our regularly scheduled programming. Which is pr0n. Assuming I can, you know, actually sit on the computer this afternoon -- I found an old fic on the hard drive that never got posted. And it may or may not be Sirius/Remus...

Current Mood: in a mood

Just wanted to wish everyone a happy and fun christmas for those who celebrate the holiday. If not, I hope you have a great next few days! ♥

I managed to get all my cards out on time this year. Of course, in my zeal to mail them -- I got them out but didn't actually get to my PO box before Christmas. So *g* will be looking forward to a nice parcel of mail awaiting me. :D

Christmas... shall be very different this year, in that my cousin is dating a woman 10 years older than he is, with two children. We're not on speaking terms with my grandfather (yes, still. we haven't spoken since about March) -- so I know it's weighing a lot on my dad. My Grandfather and I had a tradition that every year, I called on christmas eve to wish "Buona Vagilia" and on Christmas Day, "Buon Natale." (forgive the most likely butchered spellings. I've only ever said it -- never wrote it down!). This year... there will be no phone calls. No seeing him. And while he's a bastard... it's still hard. Not doing anything on Christmas is the affirmation that he is really dead to us until he apologises to my mother. And since we all know he never will... It's like losing a relative you never had a chance to make peace with. Yeah, it's going to be a hard Christmas.

And also -- I've had a rough year. Seems like RL loves nothing more than to continually kick me in the proverbial balls every chance it gets. I just... thanks for being here for me and being folks that I know I can turn to when the going gets rough. I love you all so much.

I hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas and a happy time with their families. And if there isn't happy times -- that's why god invented alcohol.

♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Current Mood: loved
Current Music: Mannheim Steamroller // Pat a Pan

I hope everyone had a fantabulous Thanksgiving!! And for those of you who didn't have a holiday, hope you had a good Thursday!

Mine... kinda sucked but that's neither here nor there. Let's just say that, once more, family drama managed to strike and oh did it strike hard. *mutters darkly*

But this is the last call for any and all holiday cards. I'll be sending emails with my address around, should you want to send me a card in return. *g*

The Poll on LJ for Cards || The Screened post on IJ for Cards

♥♥

Current Mood: blah
Current Music: Dean Martin // Frosty the Snowman

Hey! It's the first monday in october. Half tempted to watch said movie tonight. Yay Supreme Court. XD

Bah. Hellish weekend and I really don't want to talk about it. Now that it's monday, surprisingly things are better with all the crap that went on. I really hate my extended family sometimes. And that's all I'll say about that.

On the work front, I start teaching this week. Tomomrrow morning, actually. OMG. I am SOOO freaking nervous. I'm a performance major... and yes, I've taught privately. However, teaching in a class setting is going to be different and it's my first time doing this and... yes. *wibble*

I think I'm getting my muse back. HUZZAH and it's about damn time. Have the entire plot of

merry_smutmas all worked out in my head. And I think I know the ending to a certain potfic that was brought on by

dramaphile.

In other news? Yes, I finally did it. I signed up for Nanowrimo. I've sworn I'd do it once I graduated... so... here we go. If anyone around here is going to do it this year... my username shouldn't be surprising: thescarletwoman. *g* How many saw that one coming?

Prolly am going to use a separate LJ for posting of my writings. So if you're interested in reading original fic by Lia, just say something. :)

Current Mood: busy
Current Music: Lost (Season 2) // Orientation

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The apparition of these faces in the crowd

Petals on a wet, black bough.

Greetings from White Plains!

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