I've actually had the opposite reaction speaking with my parents about Anj. While I'm upset and sad and in shock, I feel like in some ways they've been more emotional about this than me. A big difference is probably that they met her once. She wasn't a part of their life, but she was my friend and she was real to them... so without that buffer of being able to pretend someone's not important to me, it really hit them as a realization that I can lose friends and they can lose me.
I'd like to think (and it probably is true) that they know how caring and wonderful a person she was, even if they never knew her well.
But I think it's very hard to deal with the realization that terrible things can happen (even if very rarely). It's easier to pretend certain things don't matter. Espeically when there's so much else going on.
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Date: 2008-04-07 03:14 am (UTC)I've actually had the opposite reaction speaking with my parents about Anj. While I'm upset and sad and in shock, I feel like in some ways they've been more emotional about this than me. A big difference is probably that they met her once. She wasn't a part of their life, but she was my friend and she was real to them... so without that buffer of being able to pretend someone's not important to me, it really hit them as a realization that I can lose friends and they can lose me.
I'd like to think (and it probably is true) that they know how caring and wonderful a person she was, even if they never knew her well.
But I think it's very hard to deal with the realization that terrible things can happen (even if very rarely). It's easier to pretend certain things don't matter. Espeically when there's so much else going on.